Things You Will Regret in Your 30s
What better way to learn than from those who have been there and done
that? A Reddit thread recently had people chiming in on things they
regret doing (or not doing) in their 30s. Whether you are about to
embark on the exciting journey of your 30s or nearing the tail end,
learn from those in the know.
1. The shoulds
feel societal pressures in your 30s more than ever before, but don't
let the shoulds hold you back. You may constantly worry about how you
should own a home, you should have kids, you should be married, or you
should have a steady career. Drop all those expectations, and live life
the way that makes you the happiest. Don't feel like a failure just
because your life happens to deviate from the norm — you've got one life
to live, so live it your way.
2. Not spending time with parents
common regret that many people in their 30s have is not spending time
with their parents while they are young enough to actively participate.
Simple pleasures like taking a walk, traveling, or even having a
conversation may be harder to come by once your parents age.
3. Putting work first
to keep in your mind in your 30s: if you put work first, you're going
to regret it. Spend time with people you love, because those are
precious moments that money and moving up the ladder can't beat.
4. Spending time on negativity
you thought those negative people would disappear from your life in
your 30s. Nope, there may be some hanging around, so don't waste time on
them. Watch out for people who don't make you feel good about yourself,
and reevaluate your relationships with them. Be careful of spending
time on negative thoughts and issues that you have no control over.
Just. Let. It. Go.
5. Thinking your 30s was old
too old for this!" may be a common phrase you use in your 30s. You know
what? You're not. And I bet people in their 50s and 60s will agree. The
world was your oyster in your 20s, and it still is. Take a chance,
live, and enjoy life as the young'un you are, and never lose that child
6. Not putting yourself first
you're putting everyone else first in your life but you. Snap out of
it! Know that once you put yourself first, everything else can fall into
place. Putting your needs first will make you a happy camper, which
will result in better relationships — a win-win. When you take care of
yourself, you'll have fewer regrets in your 30s. The partner your life
revolved around? You probably won't regret that as much if you had
focused on your needs and chased your dreams as well.
7. Not taking better care of your body
quite the paradox — you say you're too old for something, and yet you
still keep the junk-food-fueled and antiexercise habits of the younger
you. Those habits are harder to drop, but treat your body right early,
or it'll catch up with you before you know it.
8. Not taking chances
you're overly cautious at this age and perhaps it's the shoulds we
mentioned earlier that are holding you back. Don't play it safe, and
live a little.
9. Not saving and investing enough
seems to be a huge, huge regret that a lot of 30-year-olds carry. If
you start saving earlier, you'll be reaping bigger rewards by the time
you retire. And if you don't put off saving and investing in your 30s,
you'll be more likely to retire at the age you want.
10. Not traveling enough
world is at your fingertips, so take off on a travel adventure! Don't
keep procrastinating and putting this off — it'll be harder to make time
for travel as you get older. Get inspired by this list of the 10 most
beautiful travel adventures.
11. Caring too much about what others think
seems we're guilty of this at every age. Don't waste more time on this
useless habit in your 30s. Stop investing time and energy into caring
about what people who don't care about you think. The ones who do care
for you will accept you as you are.